I just wrote an entire blog post and deleted it. I thought I knew what I wanted to talk about today but once I got the words flayed across the screen, I hated it. It was a negative post. It was more about wallowing in feelings of worthlessness then it was about finding happiness and moving forward in my journey. It was a post reflective of my mood of late. I have had some days – too many days of feeling like I wasn’t good enough. But really, I think we’ve all felt like that at one time or another. This blog is suppose to be about getting beyond that. Moving forward. So this is me blasting ahead like a comet!
It’s time to set some goals! I can talk all around the issues of weight loss and publish blog post after blog post – but its the action that really needs to happen. Writing about it is easy. Writing about it can get uncomfortable at time but actually doing it – that is pushing hard against the comfort zone. But it’s time to walk the walk not just talk the talk!
So I am not going to write a long blog post about how to set goals… blah, blah, blah. There are a a quadrillion-billion blog posts about that in the world (and books and podcasts and TED Talks and YouTube videos and documentaries) on this topic. Maybe I will do a post one day on my top 10 favourite goal setting resources, but for now we are not over thinking it. Here is my goal right here: It is specific, realistic (obtainable), and measurable (all important aspects of a goal):
WOW. There it is. That is a challenging goal, but not unrealistic. Its faster then I initially thought I would try to lose these pounds. I have some personal reasons as to why I set the goal at 50. It’s half of the weight I want to lose. I will give myself more time for the 2nd 50 but I really need a challenge right now. I really have to prove it to myself that I can do it. I am in a rut and setting this goal – publicly is putting myself out there.
So what’s my plan? I have joined Weight Watchers Online. This is not my first time following the WW plans. They have changed significantly, however. I have decided I will start with the Blue Plan. It provides lots of “0 point” foods that I can enjoy without having to worry about weighing and measuring and then I have an additional 27 points I can “spend” on other foods each day as well as 43 additional points that can be used on an occasional splurge if I so feel the urge to splurge. I am not affiliated with Weight Watchers in anyway, I just decided I needed some perimeters to follow and Weight Watchers has been around a long time. It is sensible, nothing is off limits, and it truly is a lifestyle change rather than a diet.
I will keep you posted regularly about what I am eating and share my favourite recipes. I will keep you up to date on my progress and we will continue to work on focusing on happiness and the mindset to take us the distance.
Please share your goals in the comment section. LETS DO THIS THANG!
Hey y’all! Bet you didn’t expect to hear from me for another year! LOL. All kidding aside, this is actually a pretty serious post. The last few days the universe has been sending me messages.
STOP, don’t leave my blog because that sounds a bit crazy.
WAIT! This post just might be exactly what you need to read to help change your mindset, be happy and lose the weight
Hear me out.
The other day I was scrolling Facebook as one does when they are avoiding housework, or laundry or something of the sort. I totally get that people out there on social media are sharing only the good parts of their life, some might even be manufacturing things to post on Social Media to make life look extra good. But scrolling through and looking at the happy vacation photos of friends I haven’t had a real conversation with in years as they dine at sunset somewhere tropical or ski with their kids on a snow day, or pose with their new puppy (kitty/llama/pig/chicken/goldfish) a thought popped into my head. I wasn’t comparing my life to theirs, I wasn’t feeling sorry for myself or anything but it hit me that living life 100-ish lbs overweight is NOT living MY best life. Ok, I admit. Obviously I knew that already. But this was different. It hit home hard. It flipped a switch. It seemed to open my mind a little wider and adjust my mindset. My weight is truly is holding me back from the things in life I want to do. Then the dog barked and the timer went off on the stove and the cat hissed at the other dog and my husband’s phone rang and the thought was fleeting, but my mind/heart remained open.
Fast forward to today. I heard someone talking about living life with an “open heart.” Tuning in and listening more carefully I quickly realized he wasn’t talking about a Grey’s anatomy-style “open heart”. He went to on to talk about how, when our heart is cluttered with the day to day stresses and turmoils, especially with the things we cannot control we cannot have an open heart to accept the things that really nourish us. That’s when my mind started to wander ( too bad, because I bet he had lots of gems of wisdom to share.
Anyway, maybe my heart was open at that moment because this is where my mind wandered off to while I believe the universe was speaking to me. I swear, this is not stuff I would normally come up with on my own, [case in point, I am about to quote] Shaggy from Scooby-doo: “… it was like deep, Scoob, real deep”.
This is what the universe said (in the form of my thoughts):
Your heart has been cluttered. You have been seeking nourishment for your heart in the form of food but that is not the nourishment your heart really needs. Your heart has to be open and nourished by the things that really make you feel nourished: happy, joyful, content, peaceful etc. Do the things that make you feel nourished and you will not constantly be seeking that feeling with food.
Ok – Here is what was promised.
14 Ways to Nourish your Heart and Soul
(In no particular order)
A clean, organized home –The actual act of cleaning and organizing doesn’t do much for my heart to be honest – but the after effect sure does. Seeing my space clean and orderly feels so good. When my home is disorganized, messy etc, the thoughts of the mess and what I should be doing about it clutter my heart and make me irritable.
A walk among trees – We live in a rual environment and there are a lot of trees all around us, but it is not real forested around our home. Our land use to be part of a large farm. It is still very meadowy (yes, grammar police I know that is not a real word). I like to find a real green forest and take my time meandering through. This is partly why I am not currently living my best life. This is very difficult for me right now. My knees are sore My feet are sore and walking on uneven ground is difficult. A very good reason to stick to this journey. There is scientific evidence that being in a green space/ being in nature is so good for us. Google it!
Creating. This will look different for everyone. I enjoy writing. Always have. So this Blog is actually something that provides nourishment to my heart. I also enjoy some other crafts ( I make wooden rustic signs and chalk boards out of thrifted, recycled items). For some people painting, music, drawing, sculpting, gardening, or cooking might be their creative nourishment.
Exercise. I wouldn’t normally say this is something I feel nourished by. But the truth is, after a day in the sun moving my body even if it is a slow walk or an easy swim in the lake, I feel pretty good after. So far I haven’t found a winter activity that does this for me! I will lump yoga in here for those that will comment that its not on the list. Yoga isn’t my thing (tying my shoes is as close as I get at this point), but it is probably someone’s.
A Nap. Now napping can be a tricky one. Sometimes, a nap can make us feel worse if we are doing it to avoid other things. But some days, when all the “work” is done (or done enough) and the sun is warm through the window a restorative nap feels glorious.
The right people. Now, I have to say, right now, in my life, I don’t have too many people I can call the right people (but you really only need 1 or 2). I have a few people in my life right now that are energy sapping, difficult to be around some days, and make me turn to cookies or donuts (or booze) after they have been around. If you are lucky enough to have that friend that you belly-laugh with and feel good around – that’s your person. Make the time. I am blessed that my every day people ARE those people – even if they do leave every cupboard door open when making a snack (you know who you are).
Quiet music, good lighting, a good book. Enough said.
Line Dried Sheets – Yes this is a material thing. Literally. But climbing into fresh clean line dried sheets is AWESOME!
Helping Others. This is another one that takes some soul searching. There is lots of chatter around giving back and doing for others all over the Internet, but I believe that the true spirit of the helping/giving is getting lost lots of the time. Helping others for the soul purpose of nourishing your own heart won’t have the same effect as helping to really help. Let that sink in for a second.
Not doing things that don’t nourish your heart! Ahhh Duuuuuhhhhh and a double negative to boot, you might be thinking. But (yes I started a sentence with “but”) does scrolling through Facebook when you have other things to do make you feel good? Does an hour and twenty-five minutes spent watching the bachelor make you feel good? (Not this season anyway – what a train-wreck) Binge watching Netflix with unfolded laundry plaguing your mind? Buying random items you don’t need from Amazon? Eating something you didn’t plan to ? You get the idea. Edit: I guess this one could also be called “being present”.
Identify your “why” in life. Contemplate – why do you go to work every day? Its not for the money – well, it IS for the money, but what does the money provide for you? That’s the REAL reason. Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you_________ Going through your day with your purpose in mind will nourish you.
Align your life to your morals and values. Take the time. Identify the morals and values that are important to you then identify if you are truly living all aspects of your life in alignment with them. This isn’t as easy at it sounds but living a life in balance with your morals and values will leave your heart open and uncluttered. And to be clear, just because I have identified these items as nourishing does NOT mean that I am fully there. These are the items I have identified that I need work on, myself.
Practice gratitude. There are lots of books and web sites devoted to this. Not sure who to credit for this quote: being grateful for what you have, makes what you have, enough. Constantly chasing that more, more, more is not nourishing. Take the time and enjoy what you have. Take pleasure in the little things.
Take the time. Normally when I am looking for a snack I will grab the quick thing, the easy thing, the immediate thing. Taking the time to prepare some fruit on a plate makes me feel so much better. This isn’t just about food. Take time for the little things. Take a second and be in the moment, feel the sun on your face.
So, moving forward I am going to strive to keep my heart open and not cluttered with things that don’t matter in order to make room for the things that make me feel good and free and light.
Keep coming back, I will be adding sections for meal plans and recipes soon.
Well, that took a while. It’s been over a year since my last post. My last post about THE COMFORT ZONE! I almost typed “I don’t know what happened….” but truth is I do. My own comfort zone took me DOWN! Writing that post brought up a lot of uncomfortable feelings. I felt like I was out of things to say. What else would I write about? Why was I doing this anyway- no one would ever read it. Who did I think I was anyway? I am no expert on these things. Look at me, over 30 years I have been struggling with this – and I am still struggling. I don’t have the answers. And on and on went that negative self talk that is the “DEAD ZONE”. That’s a favorite one of my own comfort zone… that “Who do you think you are anyway?” that one is an effective tool of my comfort zone. Effective in that it presses all my buttons. It triggers all the feelings of unworthiness and incompetence that plague me.
Truth is I started this BECAUSE I don’t have the answers. I started this as a place to make note of the things I learn on my journey TO the answer! I started this because I am not an expert, and because I don’t actually care if anyone reads it – but if they do MAYBE it would help them.
So here I am. I’m back. My commitment is to post AT LEAST once per week. Sometimes I might post every day and sometimes I won’t. But I think it is important to post SOMETHING each week and I will do my Utmost best to ensure that it is worthwhile.
My dad was a heating contractor, I worked him for a short time in my twenties. There is a spot on a thermostat where neither heating or cooling need to click on. It’s known as “the comfort zone” or “the dead zone”. Think about that for a second. The. Dead. Zone.
Today I am thinking about my comfort zone. It’s where I live. I rarelyNEVER stretch it. Its my warm cozy, soft, dark, but not too dark den of everything is just right. Living in my comfort zone has most certainly kept me comfortable in some regards. But it has made me restless, and it hasn’t made me happy. Funny, that unhappy can be comfortable. Comfortable is easy. Uncomfortable is hard. Comfort has contributed a lot to my weight. I bet if you reflect for a minute you will agree that comfort has contributed to yours too. This dead zone mindset has to be broken. I think it’s the most important chain to break in the journey to healthy living.
There are lots of emotions that well up inside our comfort zone when we attempt – or even THINK of attempting something uncomfortable. Fear? Guilt? Unworthiness? Anger? There are more but those are mine. Feeling uncomfortable often makes us feel discouraged. I tend to give up when I feel discouraged. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy, really. Feeling discouraged makes me feel I can’t, I give up so I don’t. Typing that sentence, I had a light bulb moment. Comfort is tied to grit. When my daughter is discouraged with her math homework and throws her pencil and yells “I CAN’T DO IT” I always tell her to say “I can’t do it YET”. I have never applied this thinking to my own situations. Is feeling uncomfortable a sufficient reason for not doing something? Not doing things kinda puts us in the “dead zone”! I don’t care what goal you’ve set for yourself…. Lose 100 lbs… start a new career…. Write a book…. Start a blog, you’ll never achieve it by giving up as soon as its uncomfortable.
I think the comfort zone in our minds served a purpose in the days of hunters/gatherers. It surely served a purpose to protect against getting eaten by the carnivores or drowning in fast moving waters or falling off mountains. But now, in my ever evolved life it has been stopping me from everything that is seven the slightest bit uncomfortable. It makes me feel justified in making excuses: it’s too hot, too cold, too wet, too slippery, too many bears to go for a walk. Its too expensive, too much work, no one will eat it, everyone will complain, I’ll just throw it out if I learn to cook healthy meals.
But you know what I have been noticing? Cool things don’t happen in my comfort zone (neither do HOT things). The comfort zone is always the same. If you visit my Pinterest page you will see motivational quotes about the comfort zone. My favourite is: “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”. So, the first leg of my journey is to expand my comfort zone.
How will I expand my comfort zone?
Say yes more often!
Really listen to the excuses I make and evaluate if they are true or if its my comfort zone bristling.
Do (at least) one thing every day that is good for me that I don’t really want to do (go for a walk, drink apple cider vinegar etc)
Learn something new.
Tell me in the comments, how will you expand your comfort zone?
Welcome to my journey. This is the very beginning.
Journey towards healthy mindset for weight loss while being happy and losing 100 lbs
Well here it is. The first official post. I know it may be some time before anyone ever reads this…. heck, no one might ever read it, but I hope at some point the person who needs to read it, finds it. That, after all is why I am have embarked on this new journey.
So, I am here because I need to lose 100 lbs. ONE. HUNDRED. That sure seems like a lot. I have probably lost more then that over all of the years I have dieted. But it has taken me 30++ years to figure out that the diets weren’t working. Even though I lost weight SOME of the times, when I did, I gained it back. I will never DIET again. Yet here I am needing to drop a hundo.
Mindset, baby. I believe that the key to losing and keeping it off is MINDSET! (Ya, the food too but without the right mindset its impossible to consistently make the right choices)
The more times I diet and gain or diet and don’t lose or wake up dieting and proceeded to eat cold pizza for breakfast the more my mindset has been destroyed . Its time to get my mind in the game. If you feel like a failure your going to act like a failure and you’re gonna to FAIL!
So I will be blogging about mindset, I will be blogging about finding happiness in life RIGHT NOW and I will be blogging about food, and nutrition science. I am not a Scientist, a Nutritionist, or a Psychologist. I am a stay at home mom who is ready to dedicate significant time to learning and doing everything I need to in order to drop 100 and be 100% fierce!
I am happy to share my journey with YOU.
Please comment below, where in your journey are you?